Tuesday, February 12, 2013

This Just Might Work

Well, hubby and I have been talking (well actually texting) about this topic and if we should/could go forward with this D/s lifestyle. He is absoutely clueless to this lifestyle, not like I'm a pro or anything but I have read Fifty Shades!!!! LOL j/k j/k But, I have read several books and I have done a lot of research on the internet. I'm still in the dark about this lifestyle but I do know more about it than he does. He thought it was all sex, whips and canes!!! OK well that too but we need to work on the Dom part too!

I have been trying to enlighten him about the Dom role and he was a little shocked. He had no idea that it was going to be a lifestyle change. He just thought he would tell me "get your clothes off woman, get on the bed and put your ass in the air" and then maybe some spanking!! LOL Gawd I love him!! Anyway, I described it best I could without really knowing everything. I told him it is a presence, controlling, commanding, demanding, confidence, posture and you have to say what you mean and mean what you say. So my dear sweet hubby says "I think I'm misunderstanding this whole Dom thing. When I hear Dom I think of sex, but I think I know what you want, I will try. How about we start with small things"

OMG seriously???? He's gonna try?? For me??? I can't even begin to tell you happy and excited I was when I read that. I guess we'll just have to see how he does. I kinda feel like I'm topping from the bottom here. hmmmmmm I don't know.


  1. I am reading your blog instead of taking my morning nap, BUT...

    You should read this: Three types of rules, three types of dominants?

    and many, many of the posts on Lily's blog

  2. Thank you for stopping by, sorry you're missing you nap! I will def check out those links and Lily's blog. I am new to this and want to learn what I can, take what will work and disregard what doesn't fit! Thanks for sharing!

    1. That's the way to do it. :) Take what works for you both and toss out all the rest - including pre-conceived notions. Excellent!