Monday, August 26, 2013

Dopamine Rush

I've been thinking about this for a while. Is there something wrong with me?

Last weekend hubby and I had a long talk about D/s, sex, things we like, things we don't like, things we fantasize about etc. We learned a lot about each other in this talk. It still amazes me how much I still learn about him, even after 19 years!! One of the things I told him was I wanted him to call me a whore or slut (in the bedroom!!)



"Yea, I like it."

He was a little surprised especially because I hate the word "bitch". I can't handle him calling me that. Strange HUH? I was really embarrassed to tell him and thought he would think differently of me. But he was so amazing. He just listened and seem to accept everything I was saying. He didn't judge me or think I was crazy. He just kinda rolled with it!

Later that night we we're having sex and, yup, you guessed it.... he said it!!!!!!

"You like it, don't you whore?" "You're MY whore!"

I don't know why, but I think it's so hot to hear him call me that. Especially when he gets this low growl and says it....OH EM GEE!!!!

This was the first time he had ever said anything like that, and I wasn't sure he could or would actually do it. My hubby treats me like an absolute princess and for him to call me something like this goes against everything he believes. But, he said it with such confidence and like he had been saying it all along. I got a small smile on my face and was so happy that he listened to me.

Now I'm wondering why I like it? What is the turn on? Why would someone like to be called a whore or slut? Why would you want someone that loves and adores you to call you those names? The definition itself says it's derogatory, so what is the attraction?

noun: whore; plural noun: whores
  1. 1.
    a prostitute

Those names are for people that sleep around with a bunch of different people. People that get paid for sex. Those names go against everything society tells us is right. So why do I want to be called a whore or slut? Why do I HATE the word "bitch"?

I don't know the answer!
Why do we like the things we like?
We just do!
Why do I like country music?
I just do!
Why do I like spicy food?
I just do!
Why do I like baseball?
I just do!
Why do I like Channing Tatum?
Well, DUH, cuz he's just freakin HOT!!
I found a simple answer to my question.....why do we like what we like?
But now, science is starting to answer this age-old question. Neuroscientists are using advanced scanning machines to look inside the living human brain and figure out why we like what we like.

And what they're discovering is astounding!

It turns out, the parts of our brains that give us a good feeling when we experience beauty are the same parts that are responsible for the drive to survive. Here's how it works. Each of us has a set of structures in our subconscious brain called the reward system. It has evolved over time to help us spot those people, places and things that could help us survive. The reward system signals the presence of survival advantages by producing the feel-good chemical, dopamine, the effect of which our consciousness interprets as, "Hey, there's someone (or something) I like!" We get the delicious sensation that our human needs are being met and we pursue whomever or whatever triggered the dopamine rush.

If you want to read the entire article click the link..........

So, from reading this article I'm understanding that country music, spicy food, baseball and Channing Tatum are delicious sensations that meet my needs and give me a dopamine rush! I NEED them to survive!

I now have the answer, him calling me a whore or slut gives me a dopamine rush!

Subrina <3


  1. Well there you have it, I had no idea!
    And good for you, bringing up something so personal and getting rewarded. :D

    1. Hi Julia!
      I just kinda brought it up while we we're talking about some pretty deep things. I was scared and nervous, but he is soooo amazing! Thanks for stopping by!

      Subrina <3

  2. Hi Subrina,

    This made me smile. I'm glad you guys communicated your desires, likes, dislikes etc. Good on you for sharing this with him, I know it can't have been easy. And wow, look at the results from doing so :) Glad too you found the answer to your question too :)


    1. Hi Roz!
      I'm glad I could make you smile! No, it wasn't easy but we we're so deep in conversation it just came out!!! And I did get my results. I always say, "all you gotta do is ask"

      Thanks for stopping by!
      Subrina <3

  3. you think they'll find a D/s section of the brain? for some of us it is active and others it's not? Hmmm... ;) That is interesting though!
    As for the words, I think it has everything to do with the context. There is a huge difference in him calling you a slut or whore in passing or general conversation, vs calling you "his" slut or whore in the moment. But whatever the reason you enjoy it, just enjoy being that for him most of all.


    1. Hi DV!

      Thank you for commenting, you always make me think! I couldn't agree with you absolutely has to do with context! It still kind of mind boggles me why I would like something like that...but whatever! You can't help what you like!

      Subrina <3

  4. That's very interesting! The mind is an amazing place!

    Thanks for sharing

    1. HI Misty!

      The mind is absolutely crazy! The older I get the more my brain scares me!!! LOL

      Subrina <3

  5. Love your scientific answer!

    First time Sir called me His dirty little slut i melted. It was definitely the best thing ever. Weird, because i'm not a names person either as i feel it is so impersonal. Glad to have done answers to why i enjoy it. :)

    Awesome your husband listened to you.

    1. Thank you!

      I don't know what it is but I agree with you....I'm not much into names but UGH, when he does jsut does all kinds of things to me. Of course, like DV's all in the context!

      I'm glad to see I'm not alone!

      Subrina <3