Dopamine Rush

I've been thinking about this for a while. Is there something wrong with me?

Last weekend hubby and I had a long talk about D/s, sex, things we like, things we don't like, things we fantasize about etc. We learned a lot about each other in this talk. It still amazes me how much I still learn about him, even after 19 years!! One of the things I told him was I wanted him to call me a whore or slut (in the bedroom!!)

 

 

"Really?"

"Yea, I like it."

He was a little surprised especially because I hate the word "bitch". I can't handle him calling me that. Strange HUH? I was really embarrassed to tell him and thought he would think differently of me. But he was so amazing. He just listened and seem to accept everything I was saying. He didn't judge me or think I was crazy. He just kinda rolled with it!

Later that night we we're having sex and, yup, you guessed it.... he said it!!!!!!

"You like it, don't you whore?" "You're MY whore!"

I don't know why, but I think it's so hot to hear him call me that. Especially when he gets this low growl and says it....OH EM GEE!!!!

This was the first time he had ever said anything like that, and I wasn't sure he could or would actually do it. My hubby treats me like an absolute princess and for him to call me something like this goes against everything he believes. But, he said it with such confidence and like he had been saying it all along. I got a small smile on my face and was so happy that he listened to me.

Now I'm wondering why I like it? What is the turn on? Why would someone like to be called a whore or slut? Why would you want someone that loves and adores you to call you those names? The definition itself says it's derogatory, so what is the attraction?

WHORE

hôr

noun

derogatory

noun: whore; plural noun: whores

1. 1.

   a prostitute

Those names are for people that sleep around with a bunch of different people. People that get paid for sex. Those names go against everything society tells us is right. So why do I want to be called a whore or slut? Why do I HATE the word "bitch"?

I don't know the answer!

 

Why do we like the things we like?

We just do!

 

Why do I like country music?

I just do!

 

Why do I like spicy food?

I just do!

 

Why do I like baseball?

I just do!

 

Why do I like Channing Tatum?

Well, DUH, cuz he's just freakin HOT!!

 

I found a simple answer to my question.....why do we like what we like?

 

But now, science is starting to answer this age-old question. Neuroscientists are using advanced scanning machines to look inside the living human brain and figure out why we like what we like.

And what they're discovering is astounding!

It turns out, the parts of our brains that give us a good feeling when we experience beauty are the same parts that are responsible for the drive to survive. Here's how it works. Each of us has a set of structures in our subconscious brain called the reward system. It has evolved over time to help us spot those people, places and things that could help us survive. The reward system signals the presence of survival advantages by producing the feel-good chemical, dopamine, the effect of which our consciousness interprets as, "Hey, there's someone (or something) I like!" We get the delicious sensation that our human needs are being met and we pursue whomever or whatever triggered the dopamine rush.

If you want to read the entire article click the link..........
http://www.huffingtonpost.com/darby-roach/why-we-like-what-we-like_b_691584.html

So, from reading this article I'm understanding that country music, spicy food, baseball and Channing Tatum are delicious sensations that meet my needs and give me a dopamine rush! I NEED them to survive!

I now have the answer, him calling me a whore or slut gives me a dopamine rush!

Subrina <3